If you left wartime danger while relatives remained, ordinary life elsewhere may be accompanied by guilt. This article considers distance, actual promises, the choices of those remaining and available help as different questions. It requires no return as proof of love and does not justify every unfulfilled commitment. You can begin with contact, assistance or your own resources, skip other sections and put reading aside. Details of the journey or family relationships are unnecessary. A specific request may be more useful than putting the whole departure on trial. Safety, care for dependants and applicable local rules remain separate tasks; guilt alone does not settle them.