Quiet, enjoyable food or an unexpected smile during war can bring guilt: others are struggling, so perhaps good feelings are forbidden. This article considers a pleasant moment, remembrance and actual commitments separately. It requires no joy, forgetting the dead or justification of every action. Begin with rest, help or publication, skip other parts and stop whenever needed. No detailed account of the past is required. A feeling deserves attention, but its intensity establishes no harm. An actual broken promise needs a separate response. Where difficulties interfere with life, support can be sought in its own right, even when the day also contains something pleasant.