If thoughts keep returning to deployment during leave or treatment, calm waiting need not come first. The date may be real while its outcome remains partly unknown. Distinguish an organisational question, continuing help, an ordinary task and pressure to finish everything before return. This article determines no diagnosis, fitness or service decision. It requires neither joy, a perfect final evening, reconciliation nor a complete war account. Loved ones retain consent; a child is not responsible for adult readiness. Read in parts and stop. Today's care need not guarantee tomorrow to matter, while present danger needs actual protection regardless of the leave label.