When service ends because of injury or health, you need not immediately know who you will become. Relief, role loss and needing help may coexist. Distinguish condition, decisions, care access, material questions and dignity. This article assigns no diagnosis, payments or recovery period. Rehabilitation need not prove former fitness, and help with one task transfers no whole life to someone else. Loved ones retain consent and limits; children bear no adult-safety responsibility. Stop reading when needed. Care does not require finding a benefit in injury, inspiring others or becoming completely independent first. A small next question can matter without a finished plan for the rest of life.