“Did you kill anyone?” does not require someone to explain an entire past immediately. This article distinguishes private curiosity, pressure from a loved one, recording and requests for a particular official task. It offers possible brief replies and questions about who is asking, why information is needed and who may receive it. No sentence guarantees safety under threat or dependence. Privacy does not erase responsibility for actual harm, and silence proves no guilt. Read selectively without recalling violence. A complete public account is not the price of help; difficult medical and legal questions require suitable expertise and checking actual conditions.