Witnessing death or injury does not mean knowing the entire event or constantly retelling it. This article considers present needs, unwanted reminders and help without graphic repetition. It gives no memory test, rescue protocol or demand to prove compassion through tears. Read selectively or stop. Support, medical assessment, official testimony and publication have different tasks. Others' stories do not become a witness's property; children and injured people are not responsible for adult relief. Actual danger needs suitable urgent help. Present care requires neither a complete public account, compulsory growth nor final answers to every question about the past.