When others deny or diminish war's hardships, persuading everyone is not a condition for naming current difficulty. This article distinguishes an event, its significance, support and proper factual consideration. It promises no perfect memory and does not make every question hostile. It requires neither dangerous argument, disclosure, publication nor forgiveness. Read selectively or stop. Actual dependence and threat need attention of their own; a suitable channel and its safety are not guaranteed. Children bear no responsibility for defending adult dignity before an audience. Help can have a present task while public recognition remains unresolved. Ordinary life and relief do not cancel memory; disagreement alone does not refute what happened.