Telling a relative, providing clinical information, testifying and publishing an account are different tasks. This article distinguishes purpose, recipient and scope after violence in war without detailed replay. Read selectively or stop. Immediate danger needs suitable urgent assistance. Silence before one audience does not end every need; one conversation permits no unlimited later use. Complete control after transfer, absolute secrecy, copy removal and cancellation of procedures are not guaranteed. Local rights and duties need appropriate expertise. Lies, testimony rehearsal, destruction and risk concealment are not advised. Children are not compulsory interpreters or comforters. One present step can matter without publicity, forgiveness, correct tears or a finished biography.