After repeated forced moves, another place may again feel provisional. This article distinguishes actual conditions from attitude without a diagnosis, route or permanent housing promised. Read selectively or stop. Retained experience establishes no new rules; another request does not necessarily mean failure. A small familiar support replaces neither space, money nor safety and is no compulsory ritual. Children need not organise the system or supply adult confidence. Destruction, risk concealment and evasion are not advised. Immediate danger requires suitable urgent assistance. One current question can matter before final settlement, without public gratitude, compulsory growth or a useful lesson from every new beginning.